Matty's weblog of doom

In a recent discussion with a few of my friends, I’ve discovered that I may perhaps just be a misogynist. This may seem a little strange, with my intense interest in women but hear me out.

Firstly, I hold higher expectations of behaviour from women than from men. That is to say that my guy friends can do things that are pretty disrespectful or annoying and they would probably get away with it eventually. However, if a girl does something even close to my tolerance, I would immediately cut them out. Or not if I don’t cut them out, my respect level for them drops and my interest is gone.

I also have, in my mind, the belief that no woman can ever be truly faithful. Now in my defense, This belief stems from the fact that I want to treat everyone as human and it’s just something in human nature that seems to do this. So really, I’m not hating on women there but more just accepting them for being human. Does that make sense? It does to me, but apparently this makes me a misogynist as well.

One thing that annoys me is that so many guys go out treating women like princesses that these girls end up expecting that kind of treatment. It shits me to tears because I just don’t see why someone who I don’t even know would deserve such treatment. Girls who ask me to buy them drinks get turned down on the regular unless… well, those who know Jeffy know what the rules are. The thing that annoys me even more is that when those weak men who supplicate to women all the time see me denying the women their sense of “princessiness”, they get shitty at me for it. I’m just trying to treat everyone as another human being. Nobody is more special than anyone else.

Finally, people see my choice of pastime and automatically think that I must disrespect women. That’s simply the most distorted world view I could possibly imagine. I’d be crazy to have this kind of hobby just to hate on people. Or mentally disturbed. I don’t really think that I’m either…

So I’m done with this thinking I’m a misogynist thing. I’m obviously not and I just treat people as human.

Everyone else should do the same.

-Matt

I find clubbing fascinating (“Well thanks Cpt. Obvious, we already knew that”). I don’t go for the music or drinking. I have better music that I like at home and as for drinking, I drive when I go out. Being responsible has its downsides. Yet it still fascinates me.

Of course, one of the things I’ve always been passionate about is psychology. I actually do enjoy helping and understanding people and because it is truly such a wide and diverse subject that I do think sometimes that it really defines that side of my brain (for those playing at home, “stack” is the keyword there). And what better place to be than a club to study psychology? What better place is there to really understand people and get to know how people really are?

Think about it. There’s a whole mass of people. Hundreds upon hundreds, and you won’t get to meet all of them in one night. Even if you did, the next night, it’d be a completely different set of people. Even the next week. Nobody in their right sense of mind goes clubbing night after night, week after week. Bar none, including me. When you meet new people, you are free to express yourself. Why should you care what they think of you? You’re not going to see them again. Expression.

On an interesting side note, people are much, much more likable when they can express themselves fully. It’s what “being yourself” really means and people CAN sense when you’re holding back, which gives off a weird vibe.

After going out a lot you find patterns in people. Essentially, whilst most people want to be individuals and claim to do so… most people want to be individuals and claim to do so. Our socialisation is interesting because as we strive to gain individuality from others, we end up just being like everyone else. It gets even more interesting when you read about sub-personalities and how you can bring out certain sub-personalities in everyone (ie. Party girl, drunk douche-bag).

One consistent pattern I’ve seen though, and this is kind of worrying, is how everyone seems to strive for approval of others. I read an article one time and instead of labeling people as ‘low self esteem’, the writer instead said that these people actually had ‘low self approval’. When you reframe it as such then you understand people so much better. The macho guy who tries to fight everyone – insecure in his dominance. The bitchy girl who dolls up and goes out just to shoot everyone down… – insecure in her self. People who take drugs/get drunk all the time to have fun – insecure in their ability to have fun sober.

All in all, very interesting. In the end you just realise everyone is human and just trying to get by in their own way. But that’s getting too deep for some 3PM thinking.

Have fun,

Matt

Following the fact that a friend reminded me that I actually had a blog, I thought I would post.

So what’s happened for me in August? A lot. I have a job now. Working at Three mobile which is actually part of Hutchison something or other. I work retail and that basically means I sell people phones and deal with issues which I have no control over while some random woman who I don’t know or care about screams at me as I count off the minutes in my head.

Meanwhile, I’ve been coughing since mid-July and I totally blame Z-girl for that. You probably wont read this, but I hate you for getting me sick. Went to the doctor’s today for some tests and got some anti-biotics that should help alleviate my expellation of awesomeness (Kim and I were coughing like crazy one night and then Kim said something to the lines of, “We’re not coughing. We just have so much awesome built up inside us that we have to expel it”).

Ah, one more thing I discovered this month which I won’t spell out explicitly but those who are close to me will know. A tremendous amount of comfort. Seriously guys, you need to try it. Comfort like you’ve never felt before. And I’m not talking about communication either…

Ok, can’t be bothered writing much more.

Have fun,

Matt

THERE’S A REASON THAT CAT ISN’T RESPONDING TO YOU. IT’S BECAUSE YOUR VOICE IS ANNOYING AND YOU SHOULD SHUT UP.

So I’m just in line waiting for kfc. Gonna get a two piece feed and an ultimate burger combo with the wings. Food times deluxe.